45 & fabulous!

Yesterday I turned 45! Instead of feeling depressed about it I am rather excited about being 45. I still have another 30 – 40 odd years, maybe longer, I have had several great grandparents who lived well into their nineties.

I look at the next chapter of my life with excitement and anticipation. There are so many things waiting for me to try and adventures waiting to happen. I need to add my bucket list to my Toodledo organiser.

As I turn 45 I realise that many things have changed in my life in the past 3 years and I am eternally grateful for that. I like who I am now and am comfortable with myself.

Currently playing on my Ipod Twisted Transistor by Korn – absolutely love it. My taste in music has changed I enjoy Enomine, Rammstein, Korn, Muse, Live, System of a down. I can no longer watch chick flicks, I want to poke pins in my eyes when watching them. I enjoy a good romantic movie, don’t get me wrong but I really don’t enjoy the predictable romcom. I enjoy art movies something that challenges me and makes me think about life and the things around me.

Within the next 4 years both my children will be finished with school and embarking on their own adventures. Instead of finding myself in that empty nest syndrome and panic of what now, I have started making plans and thinking about what I am going to do with my life once they are living theirs. I am super excited about it, more about that in another blog.

At the ripe old age of 42 I started clubbing! Horrors some would say, but what a fantastic time I am having. We frequent a particular club that is close to home and caters to the alternative club culture. They hold very specific themed evenings and we love the Goth evenings. Getting dressed up for the evening and mixing with like minded people is great and thankfully I am not the oldest clubber on those evenings!

I am more adventurous in my eating, for years and years I stayed away from sushi because I found the thought of eating raw fish and avocadoes repulsive. Then my man sat me down and patiently took me through the different types of sushi and now I am hooked. How stupid, I missed out all those years, but am making up for lost time. I will choose sushi over anything else anytime, even chocolate.

Gone are the box t-shirts and trying to hide my voluptuous figure. My curves are just great and at the moment a little curvier than I would like but none the less very much part of me. I am what I am and I intend to show it off with clothing that has shape and shows off my cleavage, that I for some odd reason I have kept hidden for the past 20 years! For many years I detested clothes shopping and would avoid it at all costs, now I love walking through stores and wondering if that jacket, skirt or pants would suit me. I don’t just wonder, I try them on and I have been amazed to find that things I think won’t look nice, look absolutely stunning.

I have a new lease on life and I don’t intend to squash it or allow anyone else to squash it for me.


Arty Crafty

One thing that keeps me going is been creative and trying out new crafts. There are certain magazines that I find so inspirational. I look at the pages and am inspired to try out the ideas and see what I can do with them.

I grew up in a very crafty family, my dad makes the most stunning furniture, he can do almost anything (except operate a computer!), we refer to him as the Oracle, if we are stuck with something we can always ask him and he will tell us how to do it. My mom does all kinds of crafts and is very artistic, a skill I do not have. My brother can make and do pretty much anything just like my dad and he can operate a computer! My sister is like my mom, draws, and paints and will tackle anything. I too can do most crafts and am not scared to try out something new, what I cannot do is draw or crochet. My plan is to learn to crochet this year but drawing is not on my list of priorities, I have other ways of been creative that fill that gap.

My love for crafts grew from my mother encouraging my sister and me to try out all things. Her motto was you don’t know if you haven’t tried. My sister would grumble and groan her way through sewing, embroidery projects that my mom set us. One Christmas about 5 years ago my mom bought me, my sister and sister-in-law a strange Christmas gift. Strange if you don’t understand our family, but for me it was great. She bought us each some wool and double ended knitting needles to knit ourselves a pair of socks. The gift included the pattern, but it did not stop there. After lunch my mom had us sit in a row and got us started on knitting our socks. Now I need to explain that my mom and dad live in the Southern Cape, we had flown down on Christmas morning and had some very dear friends, and their mother and sister join our family for Christmas Day and spending the night. I am sure that they thought we were absolutely crazy, sitting there and knitting socks on Christmas Day. What transpired was quiet unique, after sitting watching us for a while the mom and sister also wanted to knit so we hunted down some needles and wool and we all sat knitting. Now the strange thing is that I am sure they never ever thought that they would spend a Christmas day knitting, but by seeing us doing something it inspired them and they wanted to join in.

So my theory is that people need an avenue to explore their crafts and someone needs to provide that avenue for them, hence my arty crafty afternoons. I want to give ladies the opportunity to try out crafts and become inspired to do things. I have a friend who I met in 1995, when I met her she did absolutely no craft or hobbies of any sort. I was appalled by this and got her started on cross stitching before long she was hooked, then I introduced her to scrapbooking and before long she was trying other things. Now she no longer views crafty things as scary, rather she looks upon them as a challenge and goes for it.

My challenge to you if you are not a crafty person is to give it a try, try different mediums until you find the one thing that you truly enjoy and fills your emotional tank. Never say I can’t until you have tried.

What’s happening in my brain?!

I have a hundred conversations going on in my head, ideas milling around and I desperately want to write an article for my blog. Where to start, what topic to pick it is all very confusing and what I really want to do is write about it all.

Right now my mind is on the fact that my girls are busy writing exams and I am wondering how they are finding the exams and if they prepared enough, how are they feeling? At the same time I am thinking about the pile of dishes waiting for me at home that I need to tackle. What should I cook for supper? Did the girls make sure the cats had water? Then I am thinking about the logistics of the week, which days are the girls at home on study break, what time they finish each day, dropping my man at the airport early on Thursday morning, social events happening in the evenings and the list goes on and on.

Then stirring in the back of my mind is my very messy craft area that I need to sort out so that I can be productive and get some scrapbooking done, practice some quilling and finish sewing the dining room curtains. I also have wool calling to me, I want to start knitting and then there is some cross stitch that I want to get stuck into.

I have photos on a camera that I am trying to download but can’t find the right cable, I have some emails to catch up, I need to visit my Gran at some stage, I want to tidy out the games cupboard and get rid of the games we will never ever play again, the puzzles that we have built over and over again and won’t look at for the next few years. I want to move the extensive comic collection to the bottom shelf of the book case as the shelf is sagging, and move my scrapbooking albums to the top shelf. I want to go through my craft magazine and tear out and file the ideas that I like and toss the magazines.

I would like to tidy out my clothes cupboard and tidy up my shoes as well as sort out practical storage for my burlesque costumes and accessories. I also have a birthday dinner coming up and want to sort out decor details for the table and the menu.

I have started a monthly craft afternoon with a group of ladies so there are small parts of my brain that is storing ideas and information for the afternoons. I want to do more with mosaics and have been thinking about gift ideas for various people using mosaics and then mentally making a note of what supplies I need and where to buy them.

When I have some time or need to unwind I am hooked on World of Warcraft and enjoy spending a couple of hours playing each week. I also have a pile of books non-fiction and fiction that I am busy reading. My family have started a monthly photographic challenge and each month we are given 2 themes and have to submit photos to my sister who then loads them onto her flikr account for us to see. This means finding the time to take the photo’s downloading them and emailing them to her. Somehow the month flies by and I find myself scrambling to take photies!

On top of this I have two teenage girls living with me and this requires loads of wisdom and patience in dealing with mood swings, boy troubles and emotions. This excludes my three ‘step children’ who live 500km away but are constantly on my mind as I know their dad misses them terribly and I am always thinking of when and how we can squeeze visits in.

Those are just a few things whizzing through my mind daily, tomorrow I’ll share some more.